Learn to Love Yourself

 Self-Love

What is self-love? It is the responsibility and right to care for and respect your person more than anyone in the world. 

It is the appreciation of all that you are and the discipline to show up in ways that you are responsible to committing. What does that look like? 

How is this achieved? I'll detail four priorities that are mandatory to uphold, within the pursuit of gaining due reverence, in sustaining your life throughout a galaxy of cognitive diversity. 

1. Acceptance

Accept all that you are. All the challenges you faced and choices you have made, good/bad. 

The wrong that has been done unto you. All the flaws criticized and standard expectations that were failed to be met. 

They do not define you, but they make up who you are, an aid in molding your existence through the lessons they have taught. 

I'll admit from my standing, breaking from the people pleaser indoctrinations and arriving at this conclusion was slow. Just remember slow is better than nothing at all. 

Forgive yourself with understanding that trauma/hardships are not a definitive line. We are more and life has more to give as long as we choose it.

How To Know You're Succeeding

The more you seek to understand why and how things have come to be, the quicker you will become at grasping the deeper underlying meanings of circumstances that were laid out before you, then and now. This way you can properly navigate the avenues ahead. 

Your mind and body will reflect your growing resilience with the waning force of intense physical triggers, alarming the fight or flight response. 

This means you will strengthen and grow the control of your responses, especially for potential high emotional confrontations.

 You either understand and choose to move on or sit inside of your own disdain, wallowing within your resentment towards self-destruction. 

2. Start Small And Push Forward

Begin to move with purpose. Choose what values are important to you and align your behavior(s) with their fulfillment as a priority.

Trust in knowing what you want, aim for your goal(s) and protect yourself from avoidable, unnecessary consequences.

3. Commit To You  

Never again overexert or abandon yourself for anyone. Those that care about you will understand and respect your firm resolve.

No matter what is asked of you, protect your foundation and assess that your priorities are resolved first, before any form of consideration is disclosed. 

Always keep in mind, the only person you need to prove anything to is yourself.

4. Invest In Your Time

Take charge in how you want to live. Aim to prioritize future successes. 

This can look like dominating weight loss/gains, getting a degree/certificate, moving out, acting, dancing, therapy, etc. 

Focusing to refine your discipline, in addition, is always the best place to start because what we do on a daily basis helps produce who we become in the future. 

At The End Of The Day....

All of these points sum up to one result, the cultivation and the birth of self-love. Not out of ego or pride, but because it is a mandatory life skill needed to protect and nurture one's energy and livelihood.

The planet, though vibrant and full of life, is also a place that is filled with many lost, unhappy, and ignorant souls. They seek to destroy their own kind out of baseless spite. We seek, the dignity we deserve. 

It is wonderful to care for yourself, be confident in who you are, and push to grow in who you need to be. Don't let others shake your confidence and resolve.

The fact that anyone will try, has tried, or aims to do so, means that you are exactly where you're supposed to be. You are on the path of great mental fortitude. 

 Half the work is already done just by seeking for change, keep going.